E gai mangel ku a bira zür


No ta fasil pa ta un muhé sin kompromiso na Kòrsou anno 2015. Asina mi ta komprondé di hopi amiga soltera. Bon studiá, bon tené. Lo bo kere, bon gainan na rei. Pero ketu! Ya Endilo i Christine a pasa riba un par di ehèmpel kaba: Juni p’ariba i Tinder boys. I awe ami ke dunabo un otro ehèmpel mas.

Gai Mangel, ta ken e ta?!

Manera m’a splika biaha pasa, ami ta “old school”. Tempu ku gainan tabata sá ku ken sí i ku ken nò, nan por a pèrmiti nan mes sierto libertat. E gainan, no nesesariamente tur ku mesun bon tipo – sorry, maar het oog wilt ook wat – pero tur si nèchi bistí, feitá, ta hole dushi i den hopi kaso “self-supporting”. Nifikando ku su propio entrada, manera di transportá i kas. Tin bes, tur tres pareu. Nan ta skars si. Pero mi ta komprondé, tur hende tin ku kuminsá un kaminda. Den e kaso akí, gai mangel tambe.

Ademas di e karakterístikanan eksterior, e gai mangel, por hiba un kombersashon nòrmal ku bo. I di bèrdat e tin interes den bo i no solamente bo kurpa di kitara. E ke konose bo. Broma ku bo serka su bròdernan. Forma un relashon igual i amoroso.

Mangel dushi, mangel zür 

Awor m’a bin ta komprondé, ku e mesun gai mangel aki, a para bira algu diferente. Siii, e mesun gai ku ta hole “Acqua Di Gio” , koriende su Audi S4 Saloon. Bibá na Brakkeput. Ku su drs. òf hbo+ den su saku. Ku ta bishitá su mama regularmente. Bo mes sa tòg? Tur djadumingu un bon sòpi karni. Podisé bo konose unu? Bo bisiña, bo primu , bo ruman?!

E gai akí tin su peki ku skeit. E chek ku a studia, ku ta independiente, ku tambe tin su mes trabou. Ami lo bisa: e futuro mama di bo yunan. Pero e peki akí mester por kompartí. Paso gai mangel tin un PKS pa tur dia den siman. Kos serio! Mi no ta hasi wega. Ai no gai mangel? E kuenta aki ta laga un smak amargo den mi boka.

gai-mangel-zurTa kiko a pasabo?

Mi ke realmente kompronde. Ta for di ki dia bo a bira zür? Ta kiko a pone, ku bo a bira pió (lesa: peligroso ladies!!) ku Juni p’ariba? Ki dia bo a stòp di hasi esfuerso pa un peki só. Awor bo ta balansá bo tempu i rishi den yen. Ta un lùdùvùdù bo a eksperenshá? Of e pekinan mes ta aserkabo ku e idea? Por fabor, splikami. Mi ke sa.

Happy Sunday!

Nef

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10 thoughts on “E gai mangel ku a bira zür”

  1. Allow me to explain why guys prefer to have many women on a part time basis, instead of just one woman in a relationship:

    Men and women have different ways of looking at seduction. For men, we see seduction as a lottery. Every now and again we will play a number, and if we win, we are happy. This does not mean that we are going to start playing that particular number professionally. Its was fun to win, but we are always looking for a new thrill.

    Women look at seduction as a campaign. Everything they do and say in seduction is to get a particular outcome at the end of the campaign. They want a successful man because it will help later. They want a “good” man because it will help them later in the campaign. For a woman, everything has a long term meaning and goal.

    We as men, are not worried about the long term. If the woman proves her self to be compatible in the short term, then she will keep our attention long enough gain a title shot at the long term.

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    1. Thnx for your input Francis. It is rarely seen, a comment by a male reader on such a feminine subject. I think you explained the difference very well. You got a major point with longterm versus short term, I guess that’s how we are conditioned too in society.

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  2. Thanks of the compliment! I have been studying social dynamics and seduction on Curacao for the past 4 years. There are a lot of funny reactions and auto-responses between men and women.

    I don’t think of it as a feminine subject. I think of it as a social subject. Men and women are perpetual at odds when it comes social and romantic situations.

    For example… a lot of women think that their male friends are actual friends. But in reality, if you could see inside his mind. It is very different.

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      1. I’m not writing a paper on the subject any time soon. But I can answer questions on the subject if need be.

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  3. Hopi biaha e gai mangel aki a namora di un mucha muhe. Un mucha muhe ku ela stima prome ku ela bira “Self-supporting”. Porta e tempu ei etatin karekteristanan eksterior so i un bon manera, pero eno tatin su mes auto. Einan e mucha muhe ku ela kai pe ei ta bai wak un otro ku si ta full “Self-Supporting”(hopi biaha dor di wega sushi). Einan e gai mangel ei ta krese bira zur dia pa dia. Ora e tin su HBO+, Audi S4, i kas na brakkeput (Ku wega limpi). Mas kos e hanja mas mucha muhe ta wake, i eno ta perde pa gana. Kordando kiko a pase den pasado ku esun mucha muhe ei ku ela stima.

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    1. Ta importante pa e guynan ku ta resa e column aki sa ku auto, self support y hast estudio no ta importante den e wega di seduction.
      Nunca un muhe no a yega di stop un guy mei mei di un zin anto puntra: “warda un ratu… bo pora mustra mi bo rijbewijs, keuringskaart, papel di HBO y appartament huur contract?”
      E uniko kos ku ta importante pa e muhe ku bo ta bezig ta seduce ta, kon bo ta ponele sinti su mes emotionalmente. That’s it.

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      1. Mi no sa Francis. No ku mi no ta di akuerdo, pero mi tin hopi amiga si ku ta haña importante pa e pareha maskulino tin ambishon i trabou. Tin hasta ta bai hopi leu, i nan ke un pareha ku sierto trabou òf diploma so. Tambe mi ta kere ku edat i eksperensha di bida ta hunga un ròl. Si mi wak mi mes komo ehèmpel, lokual tabata mi pareha ideal den mi 20s, a kambia kompletamente rònt di mi 30s. E kos di pareha aki ta keda ‘ingewikkeld’. Of tòg nò?

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      2. Nos ta papiando over di dos differente kos.

        loke hende homber y loke hende muhe ke.

        Un homber sin trabou of kosnan di luho por hanja un bon muhe pa un sierto montante di tempu. Basta su papia ta bon y e por trese dilanti e emoshon nan ku e muhe ke sinti. Tin demasiado ehemplo di esaki rond di mundu.

        Un muhe ta buska un homber ku ambishon, no pa e kosnan di luho (esei ta un symptoma y no e causa). Un di e rason nan ku nan ku un homber ku ambishon ta pasombra e homber ei ta bai ta druk in general y ta bai ta dificil pa e muhe mantene su attenshon. Esaki ta presenta un challenge kual kasi tur muhe ta enteresa den dje.

        Hopi kos ku muhenan ke ta symptoma di algu mas deep. E muhe ku ke un homber mas bieuw, no ke un homber di 90 anja. Ora bo bai deep, bo ta kompronde ku e ke un homber ku mas experiencia den bida y ku otro muhenan. Un homber ku tin hopi experience ku otro muhenan no ta bai bula hasi tur loke bo bisele, y es mas, e ta bai presenta un challenge.

        Di mes, mi ta simplificando e tema. Tin hopi mas detalle envolvi.

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    2. Bo ta añadi un dimenshon mas den e asuntu. Mi sa di e kasonan aki. Pa kuidou di no falta niun grupo rèspèt, tòg lo mi bisa ku no ta e gai den bo ehèmpel ta zür pero e chek ta putrí. Tin bes dor di un doló kousá dor di otro hende, nos no ta rekonosé e bunitesa ku nos tin e momentu ei. Pero manera tur kos den bida, you live and you learn. I hopefully, por ta habrí bèk pa un pareha ku si ta balorá ken e persona ta i no solamente lokual ku e ton òf por. Danki pa bo komentario.

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